How to use arousal gel on date night (the timing mistake I made)

I was sent this by Do Me Erotic. The mistake was all mine.

Use it during, not before. That's the whole tip and I'm leading with it because I got it wrong the first time.

Do Her is a topical gel you apply externally with a fingertip. The cool-then-tingling feeling from the menthol and peppermint starts within seconds and eases off gradually. So if you put it on while you're getting ready, like I did, it's basically gone by the time it matters.

I filed it mentally under "get ready" with the outfit and the perfume. Date night just got a serious upgrade the second time, when I stopped treating it as preparation.

 

So when do you actually put it on?

During foreplay. It's immediate, which means it works as a transition rather than a starting pistol. For us it's become the bit where the evening stops being conversation, which is exactly the job it's good at.

 

How much?

Less than instinct tells you. It's a fingertip amount, external only, and it's more concentrated than it looks.

Put some on, wait thirty seconds, then decide if you want more. Adding is easy. Undoing it is a trip to the bathroom, which I can confirm from experience is not the mood.

 

What can you use it with?

Lubricant, condoms, and silicone or glass toys are all fine. It's not lube itself, so if you use lube, use both. They're doing different jobs and one doesn't replace the other.

 

Should you try it on your own first?

I'd say yes, and I didn't. Trying it solo once means the first time with someone else isn't also the first time you're finding out what it feels like. It takes away that small pressure to react correctly to something new while somebody's watching your face.

 

Where does it live?

Bedside drawer, and the small tube exists for exactly that reason. It's discreet enough that it also just goes in a bag, which is how it ended up coming with us for an anniversary. Hotel room is arguably its best setting.

 

What if the mood isn't there?

Then this isn't the fix, and I'd rather say that than oversell it.

It creates a physical sensation. It doesn't manufacture desire, rescue a bad week, or stand in for a conversation you've been avoiding. What it's genuinely good at is being one interesting thing in an evening that was already heading somewhere.

 

Questions I got asked afterwards

When should you put it on?

During foreplay. It starts within seconds, so applying it in advance wastes it.

How much?

A fingertip, externally. Wait thirty seconds before adding more.

 

Can you use it with lube?

Yes, and it's compatible with condoms and silicone or glass toys too. It isn't a lubricant itself.

 

Is it external only?

Yes. Applied externally with a fingertip.

 

Do Her is made by Do Me Erotic.

External use only. 18+.